It should come as no surprise, but I am very passionate about etiquette. I don’t like party faux-paus and while I consider myself a rule breaker, I also think it’s important to have some common social rules so no one gets hurt.
Basic Rules
- If a formal invitation is sent, always RSVP to the event. This is incredibly important for a dinner party.
- Life happens, if you’re unable to make the event – notify the hostess immediately. Noting is more frustrating than buying a ton of food to have half the guests not come.
- Don’t bring a guest unless you okay it with the host.
- Most hostesses will confirm (should confirm!) food allergies, but definitely don’t bring a guest last minute with food allergies.
- Sometimes you’re not invited to an event – it’s okay. Don’t throw a fit or cause drama. If you want to know why, check out my tips for a difficult conversation.
- Don’t drink too much.
- Hygiene and food safety are important. Don’t take a bite out of something and put it back on a shared plate. That’s gross. Don’t do it.
- If you bring food or beverages to contribute – don’t take it with you (unless the host encourages you to).
- Don’t help yourself to food or beverages that aren’t offered. It’s similar to snooping through the medicine cabinet – it’s invasive and weird.
- Some parties are flops – don’t suggest to everyone that you go have fun at your house.
- Don’t offer unsolicited-negative feedback to the host. No one cares that your mom makes it better or that you would have used olive oil over butter. It’s rude and quite frankly, douche.
- Be gracious.
- Offer to help once, but if the hostess declines – move on.
- Hostess gifts are not required, but always appreciated.
Do you have any additional etiquette tips? Share them below.
xo love kim
