Holy smokes, ya’ll. I’m getting married in less than one month. I am over the moon and so excited to marry the love of my life.
I haven’t said too much about it, and I understand there are some question, so here’s a FAQ!
When are you getting married?
December 11.
What are the details?
We’re eloping and having an intimate wedding.
How many people will be there?
With the tiny wedding, we have limited the guest list to 22 people. Parents and close friends. Our plan was to have a tiny wedding even prior to the pandemic.
Why only 22 people?
We decided that we wanted to have a small wedding. Just our parents and close friends. I think this may have ruffled some feathers and I’m sorry for that. We definitely didn’t set out to hurt anyone’s feelings, but wanted to stick to an intimate elopement. You can read more about my feelings on the subject on the engagement post.
We still want to celebrate!
Great! We do too. We’re planning on having a backyard bash this summer.
I thought I was invited?!
Unfortunately I didn’t handle this well. There were some additional people on our list in 2020 but we had to pivot due to the pandemic. We shifted our plans slightly and that may not have been communicated appropriately. There was also an epidemic of people inviting themselves to our wedding. Perhaps the small wedding makes it feel more exclusive and glamorous. Regardless, if you invited yourself but didn’t get an invite chances are you’re not invited… but if you’d like to talk more about this and are nervous – check out the post on having a difficult conversation.
Why haven’t you posted about it?
I’ve made a few posts back in 2020 but overall I’ve been fairly quiet about the wedding. A lot of people have misread this that I’m not excited… or that I’m being secretive.
There’s something you should know: when something matters, I hold it close. In 2020, our wedding got canceled due to Covid-19. My heart was broken and when we were able to reschedule – I got nervous. I didn’t want to get my hopes up. Then little tragedies kept happening, from the loss of my cat to my grandma. I had lost so much that putting something delicate out to the universe felt too risky.
Are you registered?
No, we don’t need anything. If people want to give us a gift – we’re asking for donations towards our honeymoon.
Why are you having a small meeting?
I just don’t want to make a big deal about the wedding. I’ve gotten a lot of “I never thought you’d get married” in a cat lady not Carrie Bradshaw way.
I also like attention but don’t. If that makes sense. I want attention for the great work or great ideas I have, not for getting married. I don’t know what that means – but hopefully you understand it.
10. When can we see your dress? What about DIYs?
When can we see your dress?
This is a great question. I plan on sharing all of the little details after the wedding.
We’re very excited for the future.
Xo love kin
